It feels like forever since I have posted. I'm ashamed. I started something that I haven't taken the time to focus on. I made a promise to myself that I didn't keep. SMH! So now, I'm back and I promise to post at least once a week. Promise. Hmmm... A word with such a simple spelling but advanced meaning. We all make promises throughout life, whether it's to ourselves or others, the hard part is keeping it. I hate when someone promises something to me and doesn't see it through. The excitement of expecting something that may never happen is haulted at the realization that you've once again been lied to. I think we can all handle promises we break to ourselves, but not from others. Let me see.. the first promise ever made to me was back in middle school. I kissed a classmate who "promised" he wouldn't tell, but when I went back to school everyone knew about it. I was embarassed and hurt.
Even in relationships (this includes friendships) I have accepted promises that haven't been kept. You know the back-stabbing friend, the cheating boyfriend that promised he wouldn't do it again, or in my case as well the forever promising daddy. I've also made quite a few I knew I couldn't do (but of course I won't spill my own dirt). It's something about the word that gives us that extra heart to trust even when we don't want to...yada..yada. Now all I do is listen, nod, and agree (sticking a mental note in the back of my mind to label this person if the promise is not met..LOL). Sometimes, I even tune them out and I start to think of more important things going in my life. I wonder... how hard is it going to be for me to accept someone promising to love me the rest of their life...(maybe that's a reason I haven't got married).
So I want feedback from my readers. Have you ever made a promise you couldn't keep? Or have you had someone promise you something that they didn't do? As an adult is it even relevant to make promises anymore? I wanna hear your voice...Critiques anyone?
I think that everything you said is true but in a generic way. What promise has been broken to you recently that prompted this retort? I know the worse promises to see crumble in my face are the ones that I create from other people. I.e. me waiting on something to come to fruition between me and another from an obligation that they never agreed to. I guess my problem is not really promises it is my hopeless belief in dreams...
ReplyDeleteAs I see it, if you have the audacity to make a promise as an adult, you must have the tenacity to keep it! My motto is, "I Say What I Mean and I MEAN WHAT I SAY!" I think as we get older its indeed ok to keep score of those who don't keep their word. Integrity goes a long way. As you aspire to do great things, surround yourself with individuals who have integrity. You'll notice that success will come much easier as you upgrade your circle. Keep Writing, you're great at it!
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